Joy in Strife

Christians are supposed to be happy, right? We have faith in something far greater than ourselves and a hope that is so beautiful in an everlasting and abundant life in heaven. So really, nothing should get us down, right? And doesn’t the Bible tell us we should be happy in all things – our trials, our suffering etc?

Well, no. No, it doesn’t. The Bible calls us to JOY. Our society usually uses joy and happiness interchangeably but they are very different.

Happiness is a feeling, based on our current circumstances. Joy, on the other hand, is described as part of the fruit of the Spirit…it is fruit…it is a trait which grows out of a heart which is in tune with God. It is essentially a defining characteristic of who we ARE, not what we feel.

So how do we have joy when we are suffering? Can we still feel sad and be joyful at the same time? How does that look?

Cancer is tough. It takes a toll mentally and physically. There were many days I was sad, and scared. It was most certainly not a happy time. They physical pain of the treatment was at times unbearable. The thought of leaving my wife and kids behind if I didn’t make it made me incredibly sad. Being apart from them while in the hospital for almost a month at the end of November and into December, and again over Christmas and Jenelle’s birthday, made me feel incredibly sad and alone.

And yet, I knew I had so many people praying for us, supporting us, and loving us through this time. I knew God had us in his hands. Just like in yesterday’s post, even Jesus wept. He had human emotions like sadness. But there is joy in being assured of where I am going when it’s all done. There is joy in knowing how loved I have been – even though I most certainly don’t deserve it.

Because of that joy, I am able to spread joy and confidence and strength throughout my trials. Because of this joy welling up from within, I can endure all things and hopefully encourage others to do the same.

So, if you’re struggling – if life has hit you hard and are feeling so defeated and sad, remember a few things. First, you are not alone. This is very normal. Second, it’s okay to be sad and vulnerable. Finally, there is still joy within you. It’s not a feeling…it’s part of who you are. There is joy because God is within you.

If you are struggling and need someone to chat with, send me a message. I will be here to listen. I have been through a lot and could be a good sounding board.

Please, be well and bless you!